on how to pack for a bikini vacay…

So the plan is to usher in the New Year from Cape Town. I haven’t smelled that Cape Town air since 2009 when I graduated from university so I am super excited to go back after so many years.

A few of the things I’m looking forward to doing (provided my travel buddies are game) include

  • going to Mzolis (who can resist that meat!)
  • the J.C. Le Roux Bubbly and Nougat tasting
  • cherry picking – one of the farms I looked into says cherry time is from the last week of November until the end of December

Also, here are my top 5 tips on how to pack for a beach holiday:

  1. Pack 3 bottoms that are easily interchangeable and then pack tops/t shirts to go with the bottoms
  2. If you’re like me, you’re likely to spend more time in bikinis than wearing actual clothes so minimise on the clothes and bring out all those bikinis.
  3. Travel wearing sneakers. They are bulky so this way you free up more space in your suitcase.
  4. You need 1 pair of sandals and 1 pair of slippers. I learnt this lesson the hard way after being over weight for a 1 week trip. Yes I packed more than 20 kg of clothing for 1 week. Trust me on this one! That’s all the shoes you need.
  5. Don’t forget the sunscreen and the insect repellent spray. Those mosquitoes, insects and bugs can be really brutal!

Happy Holidays!


on bikinis, cocktails and zanzikini…

My girlfriends and I have decided we will have 1 big trip every year to a destination none of us has ever been to before. This year kicked off this decision and we travelled to Zanzibar, Tanzania.

Zanzibar is such a beautiful Island and the people are extremely friendly. There is so much to see and do and before I knew it,  1 week was over and I had to head back home.

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We met such colourful characters and I even had an aha moment. If you follow my blog, you will know that I have shared some dreams of mine  but I’m not yet close to achieving everything on my list. Which is where the aha moment comes in.

During a trip to Prison Island, as we walked towards the beach on the wooden bridge I happened to look down. The bridge was very sturdy and it was one of those that has gaps between the planks and one can see the stones and ocean underneath. Every time I looked down I panicked and felt that I would fall through the little  gaps (irrational I know but that’s exactly how fear operates!). So every time I looked down, I felt fear and couldn’t move but as soon as I raised my head and looked at where I was heading to, that fear disappeared and I walked with ease towards the beach. This happened a couple of times and the verse  For I know the plans I have for you says the Lord came to mind. I felt God speak to me and in that moment I realised just like life, if you look down  and focus on the stones and ocean you get paralysed by fear and you can’t move forward. However if you keep your eye on the prize (your dreams and goals), you will achieve them. The trick is to focus on where you want to be and work towards it by making that your focal point and not putting all your attention on any setbacks or challenges you may encounter.

For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return – Leonardo da Vinci

Day 11

I found an accountability partner a while back but I just hadn’t written about it. At the time I was doing this challenge she was out of the country so I had to wait for her to get back into town before I could publish this post. An accountability partner is someone who will walk through “life” with me and make sure that I am on track to reaching my goals. I chose her because she asks me the tough questions. She is always around so she can see how I spend my time and whether I’m cheating or not. Plus she is a good friend who has similar goals. She stands firm and doesn’t let me get away with making excuses or procrastinating (see day 19).




Day 24

Today’s challenge is to make a new friend. I have to think about the people I’ve encountered so far in my community of support.

The location I’ve been working in for the past 2 months does not have a lot of people my age but there is one girl who is a beauty therapist and works at the local pharmacy. We got to chatting one day and have sort of becomes friends. We get along quite well and we are planning a girls night out together for sometime soon.

And then there is a new usher at church. I remember how it felt to be the new kid. I will make an effort to talk to her next Sunday at church and I’ll even get her number and reach out to her during the week.

Here’s to making more friends in the future.





My fav cocktails

Ron White once said ‘I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade… And try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.’

The term cocktail is actually believed to have originated way back when. Apparently a cock’s tail was used to indicate that a drink had alcohol in it. Other sources say a cock’s tail was used to stir the drink. Either way, there is something enthralling about cocktails. Maybe its the bright colours they come in or the pretty umbrellas or the fancy glasses used. Or maybe its because I tend to judge things by appearance so if it looks good then it must taste great.

There is a place on Long Street in Cape Town, actually there are 2 places in Long Street that I used to frequent quite often. I think perhaps because of how easy it was to get there and also because I just liked Long Street! Anyhow, I digress. These places were a source of many a great night – good music, good company and MOJITOS, strawberry daiquiris, cosmos, bahama mamas, mai tais, martinis, caipirinhas and many more cocktails whose interesting names cannot be said by a nice girl like me 🙂

Man, I miss Alan’s mojitos.

Seasons of Friendship

Research has been done on humans and how we cannot live without touch in other words we cannot live without other humans. But sometimes the people we have in our lives let us down.

Friendships are like seasons.

We go through summer – warm weather, long days, short nights, lots of good times.  This is when we are sharing golden moments from club hopping, shopping, partying up a storm, trying out new experiences. Everything is rosy and there is lots of fun involved.

Then autumn comes along. Melancholy sets in. The threat of winter fast approaching changes people. As the leaves begin to turn yellowy orange and fall, friendships begin to turn sour. Little things that we used to like begin to annoy us but we somehow we manage to handle that.

Winter arrives. The cold sets in and by some mysterious power so does our behaviour towards each other. The growth stops and friendships die!

Then spring comes around. The true friendships stand the test of time. Transgressions are forgiven and friendships start again, on a clean slate. Whatever happened in the past is used to make the friendship stronger. It’s a time for rebirth, renewal and regrowth..

The end of one year and the beginning of another cycle of friendships.

But what happens to the friendships that withered away? What happens when you get tired of being the one who always calls, always smses, always emails? What happens when you get tired of always making the first move? Do you carry on and keep making an effort despite unreciprocated actions? Or do you just ignore all the memories that you shared? Sometimes the guilt just overwhelms us and we feel like we have been the terrible friends but some very wise words from T.D. Jakes always get me through such situations. It’s a bit long but take some time out to read it.

I’ve realized some people are just not worth the stress. True friends are the ones with all your numbers (including the ones that you ditched years ago), ALL ten million of your email addresses, your different skype names, know your myspace page just as well as they know theirs, are forever posting on your facebook wall, will take random pictures with you and eat lollipops with you on a night out or just accept your ORANGE shoes. Those are the friendships that are worth watering and nurturing. Those are the people who will always be there for you.

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Those are the friendships that I will cherish.