I saw a newspaper headline the other day that dubbed 2015 as “year of the #”. I think that headline was pretty accurate. The ability of people to hash tag events was a big game changer in social media trends this year. If I had to pick a hash tag it would be #silverlinings. I decided to look on the bright side of everything that has happened to date. So while unemployment may have been my biggest challenge, the bright side is I got to spend a lot of time with my family and share invaluable moments. I made new friends, reconnected with old friends, started going to the gym regularly and I even went on vacation with another group of friends.
I’m not oblivious to the fact that it has been ages since my last blog post! Partly due to the creative juices not flowing and partly due to the way I handle things. I tend to withdraw if I feel I’m not in control and sadly my blog suffers the most. There were so many stories started but never finished and I just seemed unable to complete a full post. So much has happened since that last post. I finally got the balls to face my fears and quit a job that was draining me. It’s a remarkable feeling when one gets the courage to let go of situations that no longer bring joy. One of my greatest fears was unemployment and I faced that twice this year. I’ll share a little bit behind why I quit one of the jobs in a blog post later on. So after I left the other job, I got another one and left that one too for totally different reasons to the other one. But unemployment actually wasn’t as bad as I imagined. Granted there are certain things I’ve had to forgo because I have no constant stream of income but I am blessed with an amazing family who have supported me through everything so I cannot say I was in lack. Also the saving lessons my mother taught me from a young age came into play a lot during this year.
I had a disagreement with someone a few months ago but my unemployment status. I felt attacked and he made it sound like I was content in my current state. My response to him which at that time probably came across as very defensive also led me to have an aha moment.
I can either be depressed about unemployment and cry every single day and feel sorry for myself or I can accept that this is where I in this season and react accordingly. In those few minutes of having to justify myself I realised that how one waits during a setback is just as important as how one will react once the situation has changed.
I choose to be the best version of me – which is the best route to embrace hence my hash tag silverlining. Considering I’ve done the other route before and that just led me to be frustrated and sad and overweight, silver linings are the only option for me this time around.
Every challenge or setback also contains potential for a positive or negative outcome. By focusing on the positive, I feel more inner peace thus being able to accept that which I cannot change immediately.
If I had to pick 1 word I had to use to describe 2014, I would choose laughter. And although it was a very challenging year, I think a smile was plastered on my face most of the time. When it wasn’t tears, I was smiling through it all. My mentor from university (yes Miss Andie, that’s you) taught me that happiness was a choice and while I’m still learning to choose happiness in every situation. Looking through my camera roll has made me realise that for the most part of this year, when I chose it, I was happy!
Change was also a constant them for me in 2014 and through change, I met some AMAZING souls, worked on friendships that I had let suffer and refused to succumb to fear.
I have been blessed and I’m making a choice to take happiness along with me throughout 2015.
My nephew is such a boy. Granted he’s of the males species but some of his actions are quite manly for someone so young. The other day I was going out with some friends. His sister (aged 7) came and asked me why I was looking so fancy. After informing her that I was going out, she asked to help me. She patted my hair down and declared I was ready to leave. My nephew (her 4-year-old brother) on the other hand wanted to know who I was going with and what kind of car he drives. I found that episode truly hilarious and hence my opening statement. My nephew is such a little boy. He loves ALL things cars. If you ever need to get him a gift, a car will go a long way. What I love about him is that no matter how many cars he gets, he will play with each and every one of them till they are in pieces and his mum has to throw them out. At his age, it’s very easy to tell when he appreciates something or when he despises something. His face tells all. I guess also because, at his age, the art of masking his feelings is not prominent or a necessity. I saw this same look on a friend’s face just the other day. It was that 4-year-old-opening-x-mas-gifts-and-finding-a-brand-new-shiny-toy type face.
In a world with so much adversity, where people to seem to be always complaining and losing sight of their goals, it felt good to witness such pure bliss. Unmasked. Untainted. That cheesy grin stretching from ear to ear.
Its been a while since I saw such joy and it was refreshing. On another note, I recently discovered the poem If by Rudyard Kipling. It’s an amazing poem. Follow this link to read it…
Enjoy your weekend 🙂